How to Overcome Obstacles
The past year has been quite turbulent. Lots of happy stuff happened, but I also had to deal with a number of disappointments concerning my health. The latest one being my blood results that came back with some rather negative values. My go to book, whenever I am disappointed, is Ryan Holiday’s The Obstacle Is The Way.
So basically, I’ve gotten the news that I am very allergic to many types of food. These include cow’s milk, wheat, peanuts, certain types of nuts, and fruits. On top of that, I could kiss my puppy dream farewell since I am also allergic to dogs. I need to avoid these allergens, because I would risk developing asthma or having anaphylaxis. For the latter, I am equipped with an epi pen now that doesn’t fit in my fave Furla bag. You get it, the pile up of disappoints was real. This blogpost will elaborate on how Holiday’s book helped me change my perception, take action, and create long term will.
Control your perception
Your perception is what gives color to the lens through which you see and experience life. On the particular night after I’d just been told the bad news, the only thing I felt like doing was crying. I am not talking about your regular sad teary eyes like when you’re watching a sad film. No, I was straight up ugly crying with a snotty nose in all of its glory (as if I was watching Hachi for the first time all over again). After some time, I decided to control my emotions. Simultaneously, I altered my perspective. All this time, I was so fixed on the fact I wouldn’t be able to eat my favourite pastries like croissants and lemon meringue pie anymore. What I overlooked was the fact that this would be the ultimate chance to start eating clean again. Bye carb load food coma! Hello radiant bright skin!
After controlling your perception, it is time to take action. When it comes to taking action, Holiday’s approach is quite simple: What is right is what works. I immediately cleaned out my kitchen of stuff I can’t have (that the boyfriend won’t eat either) and started doing groceries for the stuff I can. For my daily life and work it means I will just have to bring my own food every day, as I will not be able to have a sandwich from the canteen anymore. If that means I can shop for cute containers to facilitate my new eating habits, it’s actually not so bad.
Create long term will
While controlling your perception and taking action are two snapshots in time, will is more about the long-term goal. Will requires discipline. One of the easiest tactics to enforce discipline is by thinking of something that is bigger than yourself. Not only will I be burdened whenever I chose to ignore my new diet, but it will also harm my loved ones. They will have to take care of me. The idea of not doing that to them is something that gives me the drive to stick to my diet. In addition, it’s important to anticipate. The temptation of eating bad foods will always linger. Therefore, I am conditioning myself to a system. The answer when someone’s offering me something I can’t have, will always be no. It will save me the decision at moment supreme and helps to prevent me from making bad choices.
In conclusion, the three principles elaborated on in The Obstacle Is The Way has helped me to get on top of the situation and go positively forward. As it’s not the first time this book has guided me through rough patches, I highly recommend it. What is your go to book or helpline when there’s an obstacle in your way? Let me know in the comments below!