Why You Should Embrace Failure
I have come to realize that many of us are afraid of failure. In such a way that it is preventing you from trying and experimenting, as the anxiety to fail takes over. For some, it can keep them from any sort of challenge as it may prove to be too difficult. Our Dutch culture is already much more forgiving than in many other countries. Personally, I have no problem saying that one of my ideas or opinions was off. However, working together over the years with different cultures has taught me that this is not as customary elsewhere. Overall, there will for sure be a moment in time where you fail in whatever magnitude. Whether you try to avoid it or not. Do yourself a favour and simply accept it. Today’s blog is about the benefits of failure, advocating you to embrace failure for what it can bring you.
I have to come back to one of my earlier blogs on the growth mindset, as it is very much linked. If you have such a growth mindset, your failures will allow you to improve. Pushing yourself to greater things means going out of your comfort zone. Doing new things and learning new skills both create endless opportunities to make mistakes. However, mistakes are the best way to learn. It is how we learned since we were little. Remember learning how to ride a bike. You tried to keep your balance and fell when you didn’t pay attention, went too slow, or better yet passed a tram rail. You concluded: I should remain at a certain pace or stand still and keep my eyes on where I am going. Those fun taxi poles in the city centre also served me as a painful, but effective, learning moment. Well, nothing has changed. You are still that person, but your environment has taught you more and more what works and doesn’t. My most recent failure: falling with my weight balls of a box in the middle of the physio gym as I was pushed to my limits.
The power of failure is humbling. You can see failure as a medicine to keep your ego in check. Once your ego inflates, you will stop listening to others and being open to their views. Your perspective will also become compromised. After all, how important is it really to be right?! For those of you who know me, VERY. However, more on that in an upcoming blog. My most humbling moment: as a child, I was convinced that the cat’s food was somehow edible. Of course, my mom loved sharing this story on birthdays and other events. That is definitely something that kept my ego in check. What 3 or 4-year-old doesn’t get that cat food is disgusting, no one perfect I can tell you.
If there is one thing that failure brings me, it is motivation. Nothing keeps me going like an unsolved puzzle or open issue. Failing to solve it only fuels the fire inside me. At some point you want, no sorry let me rephrase: NEED, to prove to yourself that you can, in fact, do it. No matter what. There is no better motivation than an intrinsic one channelled to solve the issue at hand. Obsessive or not, it will keep you going for sure and help you develop yourself further.
Are you ready to fail yet? Push yourself and allow yourself to fail with me. Share your stories with me below.