Conquering public victories for #careerlions
The seven habits of highly effective people review part II
Last week we’ve covered part one of the review of the management book classic The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey. In his book, Covey distinguishes two kinds of habits, public victories and private victories. I’ll be covering the public victory in today’s blog post. The importance of private victories before public ones is quite simple according to Covey. Conquer and celebrate your private victories first, before going public as it is the foundation of everything else. So, if you haven’t read part I, I would recommend before getting into this one.
Thinking win-win situations or no deal
The first habit in public victories elaborates on thinking in win-win situations. The biggest takeaway from this chapter is that while one might think it is important to create a win for oneself, in the long-term win-win for both parties is much more effective. Covey explains the different types of situations where the outcome is win-lose or lose-lose. Here compromises are made that seem good at the time, but are ineffective over a longer period of time. He then explains that when there’s no true win-win, simply explain it’s no deal.
Listen to understand, not to response
In daily life, we’re usually so worried about our own goals and perspective we often forget to really listen. In a conversation we interact, listen to our conversation partner and response. While that might be with good intentions, it might not just be what is right. How annoying is it when you’re just trying to tell a story and the other person starts diagnosing or worse, sharing their autobiography? Covey explains, seek first to understand before you’re trying to be understood. Sounds very simple and straight forward, but just try to keep up with how many times a day you’ll just respond without really checking whether you understand what has just been said. To practice this, I remind myself several times a day to listen to understand, not to respond.
Bringing it all together
The last habit in regards to public victories is synergizing. Now you know to be pro-active, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think win-win, and seek first to understand before trying to be understood. The next step is to bring this all together.
The verdict of the book? Total must read! While it gets a little while getting through the (exceptionally) long introduction, it is worth the while. In the book, Covey carefully illustrates the habits through a lot of examples. While it might seem a lot and redundant (for the impatient reader such as myself), I have come to the realization that it is actually necessary to explain the (deceivingly straightforward looking and sounding) habits. What about you? Have you read Covey’s classic on highly effective people? How do you incorporate the habits into your life? Let us know in the comments below if you’re ready to become even more effective!