Conquering private victories for #careerlions
The seven habits of highly effective people review part I
It’s a classic that you must have heard about at some point in time: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey. I honestly have to admit that I have been gifted this book for the graduation of my Master’s two years ago, but only recently picked it up to read. Even though it took me a while to start reading this book, I was captured by it from page one. In his book, Covey distinguishes two kinds of habits, public victories, and private victories. I’ll be covering the private victory in today’s blog post.
The importance of private victories before public ones is quite simple according to Covey. Conquer and celebrate your private victories first, before going public as it is the foundation of everything else.
Be proactive rather than reactive
Proactive behavior seems to be a hot topic in business for quite a while now. Covey also identifies this as the first habit of effective people. Proactive behavior is about acting in advance of a future state instead of reactively acting upon it. It’s not only talking the talk, it’s also walking the walk. In the habit context, Covey describes it as acknowledging that you’re the one in charge of your life, not your circumstances. Basically, it tells you that you are responsible for everything, response – able!
Begin with the end in mind
Now you’ve acknowledged that you’re indeed in charge, the next habit is introduced. The chapter that describes Habit 2 – begin with the end in mind starts off with a visualization exercise. It’s not just your regular visualization exercise. You’re imagining being at your own funeral, where your loved ones will have a speech about the kind of person you were. The goal of the exercise was to sharpen your vision about the kind of person you want to be(come) and the kind of life you want to live. What would your added value be for those close to you?
As for me, I want to be a good person with important values. If I think about what I would be described as by others: I want to be perceived as an ambitious career girl who made great decisions and ideas happen. I want to be a loving girlfriend, a supportive big sister, a patient and kind daughter, and an awesome future mommy.
Putting first things first
If you have identified what is most important to you in a personal mission statement, it’s time to put your money where your mouth is. In real life, this usually means prioritize and execute. Personally, I do know my priorities, but executing is where the hard part comes. My enthusiasm is one of my fave character traits about myself, but can also be the quality that makes it hard for me to turn down activities that seem like opportunities. Little case of FOMO (fear of missing out), I guess. Therefore, saying no more often is one of my most important goals to work on. We’ve elaborated on the subject before.
What about you? Have you read Covey’s classic on highly effective people? How do you incorporate the habits into your life? Let us know in the comments below and stay tuned for part II next week as we’ll be covering the public victories.