Styling Your Smiling
First and foremost, smiling is a great mood booster, increases your potential for long-term happiness, and reduces stress massively. By smiling, your brain is producing the same kind of happiness as it would when you are exercising. Apart from this, smiling can also be a great asset in your professional life. Dale Carnegie in his book How to Win Friends and Influence People also stresses that your smile the probably the most important part of your body language. Smiling is supposedly a signal of friendliness inducing a sense of shared history, regardless of whether there was one or not. For some of us, flashing a friendly smile doesn’t necessarily come natural. Yes Liona, I am also referring to your frequently noticed “resting bitch face” when we go out. So, what are some of the smiling tips and tricks for us #careerlions?
A Genuine Smile
Lesson number one: give someone a genuine smile. Only those will send a message to others that you are a likeable, trustworthy, and dependable person. These are the smiles that will make others want to build a relationship with you. We all know those fake smiles you put on when someone wants to take a picture of you and you are not particularly in the mood; these are NOT the ones I am talking about here. Even when you think you are faking it until you’re making it, chances are that someone has already spotted your fake. Apparently, a genuine smile can be spotted looking at the mouth corners paired with the eye sockets. The latter usually gives it away. Also, when you see someone smile unconsciously you judge whether you expected a smile and mimic it to see how it feels. I must admit, it's a a bit of a turn off when someone flaunts you a fake smile. If you really can’t think of something positive to produce a genuine smile, then just give them nothing at all.
The Flooding Smile
According to best seller author Leil Lowndess of How to Talk to Anyone, a small delayed smile when you meet someone makes you seem much more genuine. She calls it the flooding smile, greeting them with a warm wave. Basically, looking someone it the eye briefly only to flood a smile over your face thereafter. It will also make sure that they feel special, more than smiling to anyone in general. I must say, this is something I need to work on. For some reason I am great at being late, but once I get somewhere I have a terrible time waiting myself. Yes, this applies in multiple contexts like a delayed smile, going through my dance routines without hurrying through, and waiting for appointments. This is yet another reason to work on that, delayed gratification so to say. Note to self, should probably re-read the Marshmallow Test again.
The Exclusive Smile
Another one’s of Lowndess’ tips is to give people distinct smiles when you meet a group. Flashing everyone the same one does not particularly make him or her feel special. If there is a special someone that is part of the group, make sure to give them the biggest flooding smile you have in store.
What are your thoughts on smiling in the professional context? Any tips and tricks for fellow #careerlions? Share your experiences in the comment section below.